Food for thought: What if what doesn't work out is the best thing that could have happened to you? We have this silly idea in our head that because something doesn't go according to plan, that means we have been fucked over. Seeing the world from our myopic point of view means we have limited knowledge on the multitude of future possibilities. Maybe the relationship didn't work out because someone more compatible is on the way, maybe that job didn't pan out so you could land one that was better aligned for you, maybe the lost friendship meant re-evaluating how you spent your time. We often think our current state will last forever but in reality, everything is in flux and temporal. Buddhism explains the concept of impermanence perfectly:
"The Buddha said, “All conditioned things have the nature of vanishing.” Right now, as they appear before us, they have that nature. It’s not that something vanishes later. Right now, everything is in some way—though we don’t understand in what way—vanishing before our very eyes. Squeezing uncomfortably through the narrow doorway of now, we don’t know whether we are coming or going. Impermanence may be a deeper thought than we at first appreciate. Change is always both good and bad, because change, even when it is refreshing, always entails loss. Impermanence is not only loss; it is also change, and change can be refreshing and renewing. In fact, change is always both good and bad, because change, even when it is refreshing, always entails loss. Nothing new appears unless something old ceases. "I also see change as a different way of looking at the same situation. When things don’t work out and I’m feeling down, I say the below mantra to myself. I think Buddha would be proud:)
“What is best for me will work out”.
Source:
https://www.lionsroar.com/impermanence-is-buddha-nature-embrace-changemay-2012/