And look at that…we’re back at December and on the brink of a new year.
In the spirit of reflection my reflection will be in the form of a self-interview. 2022 started off with the stank of 2021 but with some time, grit, and patience, life returned to normalcy. Thank you 2022 for everything you’ve taught me – you’ve been good to me:)
What’s changed this year?
Besides getting promoted and going to therapy for the first time, for once in my life I’ve felt truly peaceful and happy with where I am. Going out with someone that did not respect my time this summer made me realize that I am responsible for choosing people that can see the value that I have. I feel comfortable in my own skin and less scared to ask for the things that I need. Although it’s still hella difficult, I’m proud of myself for taking up more space and standing up for things that are to me, even if that means upsetting other people. I’ve come to appreciate the banal, like going to the grocery store or making good for my family. Boring has become peaceful for me and I’m loving it:)
What was/were your best lesson(s) in 2022?
- Trust yourself, be true to yourself. Never settle.
- Before you can ask for what you want, know that that is what you really want aka know yourself bitch
- Sometimes what you want isn’t what you need. Be patient with the bigger plan.
- Saying no is just as empowering as saying yes.
- We will never truly understand each other. I’ve always pegged understanding as the ultimate goal in a relationship and the result was always disappointment and resentment. The truth is, perfect understanding is impossible because you will never be me and I will never be you…and maybe that’s the point. We have to constantly try to understand each other because things change and we change.
- Don’t rush to respond in an argument. Take a second to release the pressure valve and come back to the conversation when you’re more level-headed.
- Find people that make you a better person, that accept your ugly truths and still love you, that see you at your worst and still decide to be in your life. Find people that challenge you, that aren’t afraid to tell you things that hurt but also aren’t afraid to tell you how incredibly awesome you are.
Favourite piece of advice you heard this year?
Make a list of qualities you want in a partner and become those things yourself (Matthew Hussey)
What were you grateful for this year?
I’m grateful for everything but more specifically I’m thankful for my mom’s health, thankful my brother is employed, thankful my work gave me a chance to prove myself, thankful I saw so many beautiful places around the world, thankful for my crazy family, thankful there’s always food in the fridge, mostly thankful for peaceful boring moments that gave me solitude and time to appreciate and reflect
What was your best memories this year?
Seeing my brother graduate from police college, seeing my friends/family support me at my dance showcase, chasing after sheep in NZ, reunion with high school friend in Montreal
What was my biggest relationship accomplishment?
Being assertive with what I want even if that means making the other person uncomfortable
What do you want to start in 2023?
- Invest in “hand skills” – Sewing lessons booked for January🪡
- Write again, post regularly on blog, start seriously developing content for book
- Create food/book content and post on social media platforms regularly (ie. Tik Tok, Youtube)
- Improve flexibility and movement by taking Pilates regularly
- Budget all my expenses – GET SERIOUS ABOUT THIS MF MORTGAGE 🤮
What do you want to stop in 2023?
- Stop entertaining wack energy or giving my time and energy to people that do not deserve it i.e. friends that do not reciprocate, men on apps (Ontario). Anything that drains is a hard NO.
- Stop sleeping late (late is anything beyond 12AM)
- Stop snacking – focus on nutritional home-cooked meals
What do you want to continue in 2023?
I want to continue my journey with cooking home cooked meals, developing curated content, develop more higher quality content, travel the world, rollerskating 360, reading, work out. CONTINUE BEING THE BAD BITCH THAT I’VE ALWAYS BEEN.
What do you want to manifest next year?
- Move out/ move out of Toronto
- Work remotely
- Meet more people that inspire me, that share my values and help me see the world differently.
- Good food, good company
- fit bod
- breakthroughs in my creative projects
- Develop social media following
- MORE MONEY through alternate streams of creative income
What is your word of focus for 2023?
INTENTION
If I could travel back to the beginning of the year, what advice would I give myself?
Don’t worry honey, things will get better:)